When my son is 18 and his friends are pressuring him to do something after he already said no, I want him to be able to say, "I said no. Stop pressuring me." When my daughter is 21 and someone she likes says to her, "Come on, come home with me, don't think so much about it," I hope she's able to say "I told you no. I don’t want to." Our kids will all be in situations where someone is trying to convince them out of their instincts, to get them to cooperate through inducing self-doubt. I hope that