She's Already Gone... Here are the painful truths your wife won't say out loud until she's close to leaving. First. She stopped feeling emotionally safe long before she stopped loving you. Women don't fall out of love first. They fall out of safety. She's been carrying the emotional weight of the relationship alone. And every time you brushed something off, she learned to stop coming to you. Eventually she felt alone. Next to you. Loneliness inside a marriage hits harder than loneliness when you